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🎙️ A Leader’s Purpose with Tami Imlay
The podcast for leaders who’ve outgrown surface-level success and are ready for soul-level impact.
You’ve built the career, led the teams, checked the boxes—and yet, you’re still asking, “Is this really it?”
Welcome to the space where high-achieving, faith-driven leaders come to get honest, get clear, and get aligned.
Hosted by executive coach, speaker, and Master Certified Enneagram and NeuroCoach Tami Imlay, this show helps you rise into your next season with confidence, clarity, and purpose—without burning out, starting over, or chucking it all and moving to Bali (tempting as that sounds).
With 20+ years of leadership experience—including military service, therapy and neuroscience training, and coaching high-level entrepreneurs and executives—Tami brings both strategy and soul to the mic. After becoming a Gold Star Spouse and walking through her own identity shift, she made it her mission to help other leaders do the same: step into a life and leadership that actually feels like you.
Each episode blends truth-telling with tangible tools—expect a little sass, a lot of heart, and zero tolerance for performative leadership. We’ll cover topics like:
✨ Identity clarity & self-awareness using the Enneagram
🧠 Neuroscience-backed tools to rewire limiting beliefs
🎯 Purpose-aligned business and leadership strategy
🧭 Navigating transitions, pivots, and legacy-defining moves
🧘 Burnout recovery and sustainable success
💬 Authentic communication & emotional intelligence
🙏 Faith and leadership integration that doesn’t feel cheesy
If you’re circling your calling, craving deeper impact, or just tired of pretending everything’s fine when you’re quietly questioning what’s next—this podcast is for you.
Because here’s the truth:
✅ You don’t need another strategy. You need identity clarity.
✅ You’re not behind—you’re right on time.
✅ You already have what it takes. You just need to remember who you are.
This is your permission to rise—without losing yourself in the process.
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Episodes
Monday Oct 13, 2025
Monday Oct 13, 2025
Can I be honest? I sat down to record this episode with absolutely nothing. Zero inspiration. My first thought? "Great, Tami. You teach people about alignment and you can't even show up for your own work."
But here's what I realized: that feeling wasn't writer's block. It was my soul tapping me on the shoulder saying, "We need to talk." And if you're listening to this feeling the exact same way about your leadership right now—like you're going through the motions but can't remember the last time you felt truly connected to why it matters—this episode is for you.
💬 Quote
"Aligned leaders don't lead perfectly. They lead truthfully. And that's magnetic."
Want to Go Deeper?
Feeling like you're leading on autopilot instead of from conviction?
Book an Aligned Leadership Call—your roadmap to clarity, confidence, and reconnection. In 45 minutes, we'll uncover what's keeping you disconnected, identify your next aligned step, and give you a clear path forward.
👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Autopilot leadership happens when you skip clarity. You show up, execute, and check boxes—but somewhere between your calendar and your calling, you lost the plot.
- Disconnection isn't failure—it's feedback. When alignment feels like a luxury you can't afford, that's actually the moment you need it most. Leading without clarity is like building a house without a blueprint.
- The Reconnection Protocol has three steps: Name what's actually happening (stop performing your way out), ask the real questions (reconnect to conviction, not credentials), and move from truth instead of "should."
- Alignment isn't a one-time achievement—it's a practice. The leaders who rise in defining moments aren't the ones with the best strategies. They're the ones with the clearest alignment.
- Your brain loves autopilot, but leadership requires intentionality. When everything feels heavier than it should, that's not a sign you're failing. It's a sign you're ready for the next level.
✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss:
➡️ The most powerful leadership move you can make is pausing long enough to reconnect. Not to another strategy. Not to another credential. To who you are at your core and what you're actually here to build. When you lead from alignment instead of obligation, decisions get easier, confidence gets stronger, and impact gets deeper.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Block 20 minutes this week. Not for email. Not for planning. Not for execution. Just for reconnection.
Ask yourself ONE of these questions and write down whatever comes up:
- What's the last conversation that gave me chills?
- What pattern have I seen this week that made me think, "Someone needs to talk about this"?
- What's the thing I keep saying in private that I haven't said publicly yet?
- What do I wish someone had told me five years ago?
Don't judge it. Don't fix it. Just notice it. Because noticing is where change begins.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"When was the last time I felt truly connected to my leadership? What was different about that moment?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I'd love for you to:
✅ Share it with a leader who needs to hear this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader's Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are absolutely ready to lead from alignment again. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn: @tamiimlay
- Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- Music: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday Oct 06, 2025
Monday Oct 06, 2025
Hey Friend!
Let me ask you something—how much time and money have you spent trying to fix the way you lead? Another book, another certification, another workshop promising the breakthrough you've been searching for?
Here's what nobody tells you: every time you reach for another quick fix, you're not just spending money or time. You're staying stuck in the same patterns that got you here in the first place.
I've been having this conversation on repeat with leaders at your level. The strategies that got you to VP, to Executive Director, to Founder—they're not broken. They're just not built for where you're going next. And that gap? It's costing you more than you realize.
"When your leadership is misaligned with your true identity, even success feels heavy."
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to stop chasing quick fixes and start leading from alignment?
Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact.
👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Quick fixes are expensive illusions. Books, workshops, and productivity hacks address symptoms, not the source. You can't out-strategize self-doubt or lead authentically when your identity and leadership are misaligned.
- Misalignment costs you six figures—minimum. Between burnout, missed opportunities, turnover, and lost promotion potential, Forbes and WSJ research shows leadership misalignment can cost individuals $125K+ and teams upward of $300K annually.
- The real issue isn't strategy—it's identity. When you understand your core motivations, your wiring, and your limiting beliefs, leadership becomes natural. You stop performing and start embodying the leader you're meant to be.
- Results happen fast when you go to the source. One client waited a year to start coaching. Within two months of working together, his team trusted him more, he delegated effectively, and he reclaimed time and clarity he thought were gone forever.
✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:
➡️ The strategies that got you here aren't meant to take you where you want to go next. If you keep reaching for surface-level solutions, you'll stay exactly where you are—just more exhausted and more behind.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Look at your Sunday nights. How do you feel about Monday morning? That feeling is your culture barometer—not what happens at work, but how you feel before you even get there. If Sunday night feels heavy, it's time to stop fixing and start aligning.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"What am I still trying to fix about myself that might actually just need to be aligned?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday Sep 29, 2025
Monday Sep 29, 2025
Hey Friend!
Can I tell you something that might surprise you? The leaders I work with who command the room, make decisions with ease, and build powerhouse teams aren't spending their time chasing the latest leadership trend. They're not jumping from framework to framework. They've mastered five simple habits that have nothing to do with business books and everything to do with becoming the person others naturally want to follow. And here's the thing: these habits happen behind closed doors. They're invisible. But they're exactly what separates leaders who perform from leaders who embody authority.
💬"Leadership isn't what you do in the meeting. It's who you've become before you walk into the room."
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to stop performing leadership and start embodying it? Let's build the internal foundation that makes external success inevitable. Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
The ROOTS Framework: Five Identity-Building Habits
- Rhythm - You protect recovery time like client meetings. Leaders who burn out lose their edge. People follow energy, not exhaustion.
- Ownership - You apologize without explaining. Nothing builds trust faster than a leader who can be wrong without being defensive.
- Observation - You notice your patterns without judging them. Self-aware leaders make different choices. You can't lead others well if you don't see yourself clearly.
- Trust - You keep small promises to yourself. Your leadership is only as strong as your relationship with yourself. If you can't trust yourself, why should anyone else?
- Stillness - You sit with questions before answering them. Reactive leaders create chaos. Responsive leaders create clarity.
✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:
➡️ These aren't productivity hacks. They're identity builders. While everyone else is trying to grow bigger branches (strategies and tactics), you're building deeper roots. And roots determine whether you can withstand the storms, the seasons, and the shifts that leadership demands.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Pick ONE of the five ROOTS habits. Don't try to implement all five at once. Choose the one that would change your leadership most if you mastered it. Commit to it for one week minimum, but I'd love to see you go for 30 days. Then DM me on LinkedIn (@TamiImlay) or Instagram (@TamiMarieCoaching) and tell me how your leadership identity is shifting.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
Which of these five habits feels most uncomfortable or resistant to you right now? That discomfort is information. What is it telling you about the leader you're becoming versus the leader you've been?
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday Sep 22, 2025
Monday Sep 22, 2025
Hey Friend!
We throw around words like they're interchangeable when they're not—and the difference matters. Weather vs. climate. Listening vs. hearing. Motion vs. progress. In leadership, we do this with self-awareness and emotional intelligence, treating them like synonyms when they're actually two distinct capabilities. I learned this the hard way as a young lieutenant walking into a room full of colonels and generals during a communication outage, knowing my triggers but needing to apply that knowledge under intense pressure. Self-awareness gave me the foundation, but emotional intelligence changed the outcome.
💬 "Self-awareness is knowing. Emotional intelligence is leading. Leaders need both."
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to build both your self-awareness foundation AND your emotional intelligence application? Let's uncover your blind spots, map your clarity, and see how blending both can transform your leadership presence and decision-making confidence.
👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Self-awareness is the foundation - knowing your strengths, blind spots, and triggers, but it's just step one, not the destination
- Emotional intelligence is the application - using that self-awareness to regulate, communicate, empathize, and connect with others
- Without emotional intelligence, awareness becomes self-absorption - knowing yourself without applying it wisely can make you seem arrogant or unapproachable
- Together they create sustainable leadership presence - people know what to expect from you because you can respond strategically instead of reactively
- Your customers/team don't remember the glitch, they remember how you recovered - it's not what happens, it's how you handle it that builds trust
✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss:
➡️ There's a gap between knowing your triggers and being able to regulate them under pressure. Self-awareness without emotional intelligence is like having a foundation without building the house. You need both the inner clarity AND the ability to translate that into confident, strategic leadership presence.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
This week, notice if you stop at awareness ("I was triggered by this") or if you apply it through emotional intelligence ("Now I'll use this knowledge to respond differently"). Don't just understand your patterns—use them strategically.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"Am I using my self-awareness to build stronger boundaries and say no to more things, or am I using it to push myself out of my comfort zone and lead with greater influence?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I'd love for you to:
✅ Share it with a leader who's great at self-reflection but struggles with application!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader's Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. Knowledge alone isn't power anymore—it's what you do with it that creates influence. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday Sep 15, 2025
Monday Sep 15, 2025
Why Most Leaders Fail at Emotional Intelligence (And the 5-Step System That Actually Works)
Hey Friend!
Building emotional intelligence is like building a house—and most leaders are trying to pick paint colors before laying the foundation. I realized this when I built my house on 5 acres in Oklahoma. My excitement about fixtures and finishes had to wait because my builder reminded me: "First we pick the elevation and style. That informs everything else." Your leadership development works the same way. If you've read EI books, taken assessments, and attended workshops but still feel like you're winging it under pressure, you're not broken—you're just building on unstable ground.
💬 "Emotional intelligence without a system is just good intentions."
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to stop guessing about your leadership development and start building systematically? Let's identify which of the 5 dimensions needs your attention first and create a roadmap that turns self-awareness into leadership effectiveness.
👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- The 5 Dimensions of Impact Intelligence work systematically together: Identity Foundation, Growth Architecture, Leadership Expression, Strategic Vision, and Sustainable Success
- Most leaders skip Dimension 3 (Leadership Expression) where your internal clarity becomes external influence—your presence, communication patterns, and boundary-setting
- Random emotional intelligence tips don't work because they don't connect to your specific leadership wiring and core motivations
- High-impact leaders develop EI systematically, not randomly by understanding which dimension needs attention first
- Strategic clarity requires all 5 dimensions working together not just knowing your personality type or strengths
✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:
➡️ Dimension 3 is the missing link most leaders never develop. You can know your values, manage your triggers, and have clear vision, but if you can't translate that into how you show up in the room, none of it matters. It's the difference between being self-aware and being strategically expressive with that awareness.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Pause and ask yourself: Which of the 5 dimensions resonates most with where you feel stuck right now? Once you can name it, it loses its power over you.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"Which dimension feels most developed in my leadership right now, and which one feels like the missing piece that's holding me back?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
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Monday Sep 08, 2025
Monday Sep 08, 2025
Hey Friend!
Are you watching good people disengage or leave your team? Seeing departments operate like separate islands instead of one cohesive unit? The problem isn't your strategy or your people—it's that you're leading through your own lens instead of seeing things through theirs.
After two decades of guiding executives through team dynamics, I can tell you the leaders who master this aren't the ones with the most experience. They're the ones who understand that every person on their team has a different operating system. And once you learn to see through their lens, everything changes.
💬 "People don't leave hard work. They leave leadership that doesn't see them."
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact.
👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Surface-level leadership manages behaviors and asks "What are they doing wrong?" instead of "Why is this showing up?"
- Pattern-level leadership understands motivations and starts asking curious questions about the why behind behaviors
- Identity-level leadership unlocks each person's unique design—like giving every chef the right tools instead of forcing everyone to use the same saute pan
- The cost of lens-blindness includes high turnover, siloed departments, and losing your best people to organizations that actually see them
- Strategic questioning transforms resistance into engagement: "What's your thought process here?" beats "Why won't you just do what I asked?" every time
✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss:
➡️ When you have to repeat yourself three times to get through to a team member, that's not a process problem—it's a lens problem. Stop forcing your approach and start seeing their brilliance.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Next time someone on your team pushes back or seems disengaged, resist the urge to explain your position. Instead, ask: "What's your thought process here?" or "What are your concerns?" Then actually listen to understand their lens.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"Which team member am I trying to force into my way of working, and what might they need instead to bring their best?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday Sep 01, 2025
Monday Sep 01, 2025
Hey Friend!
Ever feel like you're checking all the boxes but still spinning your wheels? Like your team is busy but not actually getting anywhere meaningful? You're not behind, and you're definitely not lazy—but something's clouding your clarity and making you second-guess every move.
After two decades of leadership coaching, I've discovered one of the most overlooked reasons high-capacity leaders feel scattered: time focus. It's not about productivity—it's about perspective. And once you understand yours, everything shifts.
💬 "The leadership you're called into requires alignment between your identity, your focus, and your action."
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to stop circling your calling and finally get clear on what’s next?
Take the Purpose Map Quiz—just 7 powerful questions to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and the next aligned step you’re meant to take.
👉 Discover your Purpose Archetype now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/quiz
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Past-focused leaders (Types 4, 5, 9) bring wisdom and context but can get stuck overthinking what was instead of moving toward what's next
- Present-focused leaders (Types 1, 2, 6) excel at immediate problem-solving but risk burnout from carrying everyone else's urgency as their own
- Future-focused leaders (Types 3, 7, 8) drive momentum and vision but may skip vital steps by outrunning discomfort instead of processing it
- The strongest teams integrate all three time perspectives—past wisdom, present awareness, and future vision working together
- Your compass problem isn't calendar management—it's understanding which lens you're unconsciously leading through and learning to access the others
✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:
➡️ You're not trying to fix your time focus—you're learning to leverage it. The goal isn't to become someone else; it's to understand your natural orientation and intentionally access what you're missing.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Identify your time focus this week. Are you stuck fixing the past, controlling the present, or outrunning toward the future? Then ask yourself: "What perspective am I missing right now?" and intentionally lean into it.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"What would change if I stopped operating from urgency and started leading from alignment?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday Aug 25, 2025
Monday Aug 25, 2025
Hey Friend!
Ever catch yourself thinking you need to have it all figured out before stepping into bigger leadership? I recorded this episode twice (tech crashed the first time—apparently even I don't have all the answers about equipment!) because this message hit me so hard on a Sunday drive. If you're waiting for complete clarity before you lead, you're actually disqualifying yourself from being the leader your team needs most.
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to lead with clarity instead of confusion? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to navigate uncertainty with confidence and finally step into the leadership identity you're called to embody.
👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- You don't need to be the smartest person in the room—you need to embrace that you're not and surround yourself with people who know what you don't
- Curiosity beats certainty every time—model "I don't know, let's find out" instead of pretending to have answers you don't have
- Leadership isn't about having all the answers—it's about having the right people and being willing to learn alongside them
- Your people already know you're new—authenticity builds more trust than fake expertise ever will
✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:
➡️ The ASK Framework: Accept that not knowing is data (not failure), Seek input from people who see what you can't, and Keep moving while you're learning. Don't stop to figure it all out—learn as you lead.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
In your next team meeting, ask "What am I missing here?" instead of pretending you have all the context. Watch how your team responds when you model curiosity over certainty.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"What question have I been afraid to ask my team because I think I should already know the answer?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Sunday Aug 17, 2025
Sunday Aug 17, 2025
Hey Friend!
You're not someone who makes decisions from panic or pressure…you're someone who leads with intentional clarity and purpose. But sometimes that clarity feels a little cloudy, doesn't it? If you're nodding your head right now, this episode is exactly what you need. Today we're talking about the mirror test and why it's a complete game-changer for leaders who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves and start leading from their true identity.
💬 "Self-awareness isn't a destination—it's a practice. And the leaders who commit to the practice are the ones who actually change the game." ~Tami Imlay
Want to Go Deeper?
Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Strategy without self-awareness is expensive chaos—you can't navigate what you can't see clearly
- The best leaders aren't the ones with perfect instincts—they're the ones who catch themselves when they go off course
- Leading from reaction instead of intention costs you team trust, consistency, and burns you out fighting the same patterns
- The Mirror Test using the 3 C's gives you a simple framework to recalibrate in real-time: Catch, Clarify, Choose
- Every decision point is a choice—serve your leadership mission or serve your ego (both are human, but only one builds the future)
✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:
➡️ The Netflix story perfectly illustrates what happens when a leader chooses to build the future instead of protecting the past. Reed Hastings lost 800,000 subscribers in the short term, but he knew streaming was the wave of the future—and he made decisions from identity, not impulse.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Practice the Mirror Test this week using the 3 C's. Before your next big decision, ask yourself: What's really driving this? Does this serve my leadership or my ego? What would the leader I'm becoming choose here? Even if you make the same choice, slow down the process and let your heart, gut, and mind catch up with each other.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"When do I default to control, people-pleasing, or avoiding hard conversations? What patterns am I noticing without judgment—just as data?"
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!
✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
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- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday Aug 11, 2025
Monday Aug 11, 2025
Hey Friend!
Ever feel like you're stuck in the hamster wheel of good intentions? You know what you should do as a leader, but somehow you keep falling back into the same patterns. Whether it's avoiding difficult conversations, letting your workout routine slide, or saying yes when you mean no, the cycle feels endless. Today we're talking about how to break free from behavior-based changes that don't stick and start building from the inside out. Because here's the truth: Rome wasn't built in a day, but it also wasn't built by accident.
💬 "You don't need more forced discipline. You need a clearer identity." ~Tami Imlay
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🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Identity beats willpower every time — Motivation has a two-week shelf life, but "I am someone who..." statements create lasting transformation
- The Two-Day Rule changes everything — Missing once is human; missing twice builds a different story (and identity)
- Your brain doesn't register negatives — When you say "I'm not someone who skips the gym," your brain hears "skip the gym"
- Link habits to purpose, not just performance — Move from "I have to" to "I get to because it's who I'm becoming"
- Let identity drive action, not emotion — Emotions are a 90-second thermometer, not your decision-making system
✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:
➡️ The Three Bricks to Build Identity That Sticks: Speak to who you ARE (not who you're not), link it to purpose (not just performance), and let identity drive action (not emotion). This is how you go from trying to change behaviors to embodying the leader you're meant to be.
💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:
Choose ONE identity statement that starts with "I am someone who..." and ties to your leadership vision. Write it down, anchor it to your deeper purpose, and implement the Two-Day Rule. Watch how quickly your actions align when your identity leads.
📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:
"Who am I becoming as a leader, and what would that version of me do in this situation?"
🧠 SHINE™ Framework Connection:
Before you can lead others with conviction, you need crystal-clear awareness of who you are and who you're becoming. Most leaders try to fix behaviors without addressing identity, which is why change feels so hard. When you see yourself clearly as the leader you're meant to be, your actions naturally follow.
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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
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- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025