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🎙️ A Leader’s Purpose with Tami Imlay
The podcast for leaders who’ve outgrown surface-level success and are ready for soul-level impact.
You’ve built the career, led the teams, checked the boxes—and yet, you’re still asking, “Is this really it?”
Welcome to the space where high-achieving, faith-driven leaders come to get honest, get clear, and get aligned.
Hosted by executive coach, speaker, and Master Certified Enneagram and NeuroCoach Tami Imlay, this show helps you rise into your next season with confidence, clarity, and purpose—without burning out, starting over, or chucking it all and moving to Bali (tempting as that sounds).
With 20+ years of leadership experience—including military service, therapy and neuroscience training, and coaching high-level entrepreneurs and executives—Tami brings both strategy and soul to the mic. After becoming a Gold Star Spouse and walking through her own identity shift, she made it her mission to help other leaders do the same: step into a life and leadership that actually feels like you.
Each episode blends truth-telling with tangible tools—expect a little sass, a lot of heart, and zero tolerance for performative leadership. We’ll cover topics like:
✨ Identity clarity & self-awareness using the Enneagram
🧠 Neuroscience-backed tools to rewire limiting beliefs
🎯 Purpose-aligned business and leadership strategy
🧭 Navigating transitions, pivots, and legacy-defining moves
🧘 Burnout recovery and sustainable success
💬 Authentic communication & emotional intelligence
🙏 Faith and leadership integration that doesn’t feel cheesy
If you’re circling your calling, craving deeper impact, or just tired of pretending everything’s fine when you’re quietly questioning what’s next—this podcast is for you.
Because here’s the truth:
✅ You don’t need another strategy. You need identity clarity.
✅ You’re not behind—you’re right on time.
✅ You already have what it takes. You just need to remember who you are.
This is your permission to rise—without losing yourself in the process.
Hit subscribe and let’s get started
Episodes
4 days ago
4 days ago
She ended the day at 4:45 with her real work still untouched. Got up. Went home. Came back and did it again.
If that landed anywhere, this episode was built for you.
I give a name to something a lot of leaders at your level are living right now and have not had the language for. And I give you two things you can do differently tomorrow.
INSIDE THE EPISODE
Four questions worth sitting with honestly
Before I name it, I ask you to answer four things. Not in your head the way you do when you are half listening. Actually stop and answer them.
What quiet cracking is and what it is not
It is not burnout. It is not a character flaw. It is something more specific than either of those and more important to name.
What it looks like from the inside
The conversations that used to feel like culture now feel like a drain. The goals you were hired to move have not been touched in weeks. Not because you forgot. I name what is underneath that.
What becomes possible when it shifts
I paint the day you are building toward. It is not a fantasy. It is what gets addressed when you stop managing it at the surface.
Two things you can do tomorrow
Not a framework. Not a system overhaul. Two moves. Either one changes something.
WHAT TO TAKE WITH YOU
- There is a name for what you have been carrying. Hearing it does something that managing it never will.
- The things we do not name, we manage. And managing something unnamed is exhausting in a way a long weekend does not fix.
- You did not work your way to this level to spend it being everyone else's answer.
SIT WITH THIS
When you think about the leader you are at your very best, the one with real vision, the one who makes decisions that hold, the one who walks in the room and leads. Does that version of you feel like someone you visit occasionally instead of someone you are?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
The Friction Factor names exactly what we talked about today. It is free and it is the place to start if you heard yourself anywhere in this episode.
The Invisible Weight is my free private audio series for leaders carrying more than they should have to right now. Six episodes. Straight to your phone.
- Enjoyed the Episode?
- If this resonated, here is how to help more leaders find it:
- ✅ Share it with a leader in your world who needs to hear this.
✅ Leave a quick rating and review so more people can find A Leader's Purpose.
- ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode.
- You already have what it takes. This is where you get to remember that.
- Find me: LinkedIn: @tamiimlay
- Instagram and Facebook: @tamimariecoaching
- Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Ready to go deeper?
- Book your Aligned Leadership Audit: tamimariecoaching.com/call
- For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
Monday Jun 08, 2026
Monday Jun 08, 2026
AI can give you a competent answer. It cannot give you your judgment. The leaders who are using AI well are not the ones replacing their read on the room with it. They are the ones who bring their judgment first and use AI as the tool after. That distinction is the difference between generic output and a decision that sounds like you.
WHAT THIS EPISODE IS ABOUT
You are using AI and using it well. And you are still walking away from it feeling like something is missing.
That feeling has a name. And it is not a problem with the tool.
This episode is about what AI cannot replicate at your level, why it matters more right now than it ever has, and the one shift that changes everything you get back from it.
INSIDE THE EPISODE
The gap you have already felt but not named
You have noticed it. I name it.
Knowledge versus judgment
They are not the same thing. The difference is everything at your level.
The shortcut that is costing you
I share a personal example. You will recognize yourself in it.
What it looks like when you go in with your judgment first
This is the shift. And it changes what you get back.
What I am building with clients right now
AI that is actually trained on you. There is a difference between a tool and a tool that knows your wiring.
WHAT TO TAKE WITH YOU
- There is a name for what AI cannot give you. It is not a soft skill and it is not a mindset. Press play.
- The shortcut feels efficient. I talk about what it is quietly costing you at your level.
- The leaders who are using AI well are doing one thing differently before they ever open a prompt.
SIT WITH THIS
When you go to AI for an answer, are you bringing your judgment with you, or are you waiting for AI to give you one?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
The Friction Factor is the research report I referenced in this episode. It pulls from over 60,000 leaders across Gallup, Harvard Business Review, and McKinsey and names something happening at the senior level that nobody is talking about out loud. If anything I said today sounds familiar, this is where you start.
The Invisible Weight is my free private audio series for leaders carrying more than they should have to right now. Six episodes. Straight to your phone.
- Enjoyed the Episode?
- If this resonated, here is how to help more leaders find it:
- ✅ Share it with a leader in your world who needs to hear this.
✅ Leave a quick rating and review so more people can find A Leader's Purpose.
- ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode.
- You already have what it takes. This is where you get to remember that.
- Find me: LinkedIn: @tamiimlay
- Instagram and Facebook: @tamimariecoaching
- Email: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- Website: www.tamimariecoaching.com Ready to go deeper?
- Book your Aligned Leadership Audit: tamimariecoaching.com/call
- For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
Monday Jun 01, 2026
Monday Jun 01, 2026
Your team is capable. You know that better than anyone. So when everything keeps routing back through you, the instinct is to look at them. More delegation. Better processes. Clearer expectations.
None of that is the real fix.
In this episode, I name the one thing your team is missing and why giving it to them changes every conversation after it.
INSIDE THE EPISODE
The signal most leaders misread
When your team keeps bringing things back to you, it is not about their capability. It is about information. I break down what that signal is actually telling you.
The story that changed how I see this
One leader. One meeting. A team that went from routing everything through her to running three steps ahead. Here is exactly what she did and what shifted.
The picture you are carrying that your team does not have
You have been in every closed-door meeting. You carry the full strategic context. Your team carries the task. That gap is where the routing lives, and it is smaller to close than you think.
What Monday looks like on the other side
I paint the inbox you actually want. The messages that come in when your team has what they need to trust their own read on the situation.
WHAT TO TAKE WITH YOU
- Your team is not coming back to you because they cannot handle it. They are coming back because they do not have what they need to trust their own judgment on the call.
- The leaders who stop being the answer to everything are not better at delegating. They are better at sharing the picture.
- The context your team is missing is probably already in your head. You just forgot they did not have it.
SIT WITH THIS
What strategic context are you carrying in your head that your team does not have? Not because you are protecting it. Because it never occurred to you that they did not already have it, or that they needed it.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
The Invisible Weight, my free private audio series for leaders carrying more than they should have to right now. Six episodes. Straight to your phone.
Ready to look at what is creating the routing in your specific leadership situation? This is where that conversation starts.
Book the Aligned Leadership Audit
Enjoyed the Episode?
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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
Monday May 25, 2026
Monday May 25, 2026
This one is personal. This is not a leadership framework episode. This is my story -- and I shared it because I think it belongs here.
Fifteen years of Memorial Days. Fifteen years of going back to DC with my kids. Walking the same halls. Watching new families walk in carrying that same fresh weight we carried the first time.
Someone asked me once how I am different from the families who have been coming for twenty-five years and are still standing in the same place emotionally. I told them -- I am not different. My choices are.
That is what this episode is about. Not the circumstances. What we do with them.
WHAT WE COVER
I take you inside what it felt like to walk into that space for the first time -- surrounded by hundreds of people who did not need an explanation, who understood exactly what it meant to carry this specific kind of loss.
I talk about what fifteen years of that same trip looks like now -- how the grief has changed, how my family has changed, and what I see when I walk through those halls today that I could not see in the beginning.
And I share the five words I heard the day my world collapsed that I did not understand then -- but I do now.
SOMETHING I WANT YOU TO CARRY
You are not defined by what happened to you. You are shaped by what you chose to do after. Those are not the same thing -- and the difference between them is the whole story.
The circumstances are not a choice. What we do with them always is.
Sit With This
Which hard are you carrying right now that was never yours to keep -- and which one is building something worth keeping?
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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
Monday May 18, 2026
Monday May 18, 2026
You've run it through every filter. Looked at it from every angle. Sat with it at 3 am. The decision settled. And THEN you opened it back up.
Not because something changed. Because trusting your own read is harder than making the call in the first place.
In this episode, Tami opens a brand new series by naming what it actually costs when decisions don't hold -- and what becomes possible when they finally do. This one is personal. It starts with a story about a leader who built something from nothing, loved it, lost the love, and slowly found his way back. And it ends with the one question that changes what you do with next week.
WHAT YOU'LL HEAR
Why the most exhausting part of leadership is rarely the decision itself. What it looks like when a leader keeps reopening something that already settled. The difference between a decision that was wrong and a decision that wasn't trusted. What changes when a leader finally lets a decision hold. Why this series exists and where it is going.
LEADERSHIP PATTERN TO NOTICE
There is a specific kind of exhaustion that shows up in high-performing leaders who are excellent at what they do. It is not the exhaustion of overwork, though the hours are real. It is the exhaustion of making the same decision multiple times. The decision was made. It was right. And then new information came, or the weight of it got heavier, and it got reopened. Leaders who carry this pattern are not lacking confidence in the traditional sense. They are carrying a gap between knowing and trusting. The decision and the trust in it are not the same thing. Most leaders have never been told that.
CONCEPTS INTRODUCED
This episode introduces the gap between a decision that settled and the trust required to let it hold. Tami also opens the new series, What You're Already Built For, and names the thread that will carry through the next several weeks: the wiring already in you that you have been second-guessing, editing, or waiting to fully own.
SIT WITH THIS
What have you already decided that you keep reopening? Not because it was wrong. Because you haven't let yourself trust it yet.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- The decision wasn't the problem. The trust was.
- When a decision doesn't hold, it doesn't disappear. It comes back with everything attached to it.
- The leaders who get their footing back are not the ones who finally got more information. They are the ones who stopped second-guessing the information they already had.
- Your body made that call before your brain finished building the case. That is not a flaw. That is wiring.
- Letting a decision hold is not passivity. It is one of the highest-leverage moves a senior leader can make.
Enjoyed the Episode?
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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025
Monday May 11, 2026
Monday May 11, 2026
Leadership gets harder at senior levels not because the role gets worse, but because the weight accumulates without a system for what to put down. Experience increases visibility and stakes but does not reduce the load. What changes it is understanding your own wiring — how you define responsibility, what you carry out of habit, and what was never yours to carry in the first place.
You have earned this seat. You know how to lead. And still, the weight of it follows you home.
Not because something is wrong. Because no one told you to put any of it down.
This is the final episode of the Leadership Myths series. Tami saved this one for last. Because this is the one every leader she has worked with has been carrying, and almost no one wants to say it out loud.
What You'll Hear
- What experience actually gives you at this level and what it does not
- A real client story that changed how one VP understood what he was carrying
- The difference between load-bearing weight and weight you picked up somewhere along the way
- What becomes possible when that distinction finally becomes clear
Leadership Pattern to Notice
There is a version of responsibility that was built for a different level of leadership. It served you then. At this level, it has a cost that most leaders can feel but have never fully named.
Sit With This
What becomes possible when you stop carrying what was never yours?
What's Coming Next
The Myths series is complete. Next week opens something different. Eight episodes. One question. What are you already built for?
Something I Don't Want You to Miss
The weight does not go away at this level. But there is a difference between the weight that belongs to the role and the weight you picked up somewhere along the way and forgot you were choosing to carry. That distinction changes everything.
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- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
A Leader's Purpose is a podcast for senior leaders and executives navigating the real pressure of high-stakes leadership. In this episode, Tami Imlay addresses why leadership gets harder the higher you go — the exhaustion that does not resolve with rest, the 3am decision replay, and the weight that follows you home even when everything is technically going well. This is the final episode of the Leadership Myths series, and it is the one she saved for last on purpose.
Monday May 04, 2026
Monday May 04, 2026
The most capable leaders in the room are sometimes the most exhausted ones. Not because the role is too much — because they are performing something they already have.
Tami names the myth that keeps senior leaders working harder at looking certain while the gap between projected confidence and actual certainty quietly widens. She draws a line between performed confidence and calibrated certainty — two things that look identical from the outside and feel completely different from the inside.
This episode is not about building more confidence. It is about stopping the performance of the thing you already have and leading from the foundation that has been there all along.
What You'll Hear
- Why the most put-together leaders in the room are sometimes the most exhausted ones
- A real client story that reframes what confidence at the highest level actually looks like
- The distinction that changes how your team reads you — and follows you
Leadership Pattern to Notice
The leaders who feel this most are the ones who look the most put together from the outside. They have learned how to hold a room. They know what composed looks like. And underneath that composure, there is a version of them working overtime that nobody sees. The performance is not a weakness. It is a response to a message that was never examined — that certainty is something you project rather than something you stand on.
Key Takeaways
- Performed confidence and calibrated certainty are not the same thing
- Your team can feel the difference before you say a word
- The foundation has been there. This is just where you get to stop performing it
Concepts Introduced
Tami introduces the distinction between performed confidence and calibrated certainty — and makes the case that the performance itself is what erodes trust in the room, not the doubt underneath it. She also brings in the Enneagram 8 wiring as a diagnostic lens, naming the Sovereign leader type and the pattern of managing natural strength out of fear of how it lands. The through line: knowing your wiring is not self-awareness for its own sake. It is the foundation that makes calibrated certainty possible.
Sit With This
Where are you performing certainty you already have — and what would it cost you to stop?
Links
The Invisible Weight — Private Audio Series: http://app.helloaudio.fm/feed/c6ff1d1a-3115-4cc3-a54c-1af179e469e4/signup
Aligned Leadership Audit: http://tamimariecoaching.com/call
Connect with Tami Imlay
Tami Imlay is an Executive Leadership Strategist and Advisor and the founder of Daily Choosing Joy LLC. She works with senior leaders who are performing at the highest level and want to understand the system running underneath their leadership.
Website: tamimariecoaching.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamiimlay
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
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✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.
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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
Monday Apr 27, 2026
Monday Apr 27, 2026
Your team is not disengaged. They are responding. And there is a difference that changes everything about where you look.
Tami names the myth that keeps senior leaders investing in the wrong solutions — and reframes what is actually happening when the energy in the room goes flat, requests pile back up, and the people who started the year strong seem to have quietly shifted gears.
This is not a conversation about employee motivation. It is a conversation about signal. And once you understand the difference, you cannot unsee it.
What You'll Hear
- The experience most senior leaders are living but haven't been able to name
- What the Gallup State of the Global Workplace data actually reveals about why 80 percent of the workforce is not fully engaged
- A real story from client work — and the moment that proved this was never a disengagement problem
- Five things employees actually need, and why none of them are motivation
- What becomes possible when the signal changes
Leadership Pattern to Notice
The leaders who feel this most are the ones who have already tried the team-side solutions. They ran the surveys. They brought in the speaker. They launched the culture initiative. And the energy still did not shift the way they expected. That is not failure. That is data. It means the starting point was off, not the effort.
Key Takeaways
- 80 percent of the global workforce is not engaged. That is not a motivation problem. That is a signal problem.
- Engagement measures connection, not motivation. Connection to the work, the team, and how they are being led.
- People do not stop caring. They stop investing energy in environments where what they need is not present.
- What looks like disengagement is actually withheld energy. There is a difference.
- When the signal changes, the team does not need a new initiative. They respond. Automatically.
Concepts Introduced
Tami draws a distinction between disengagement and withheld energy — two things that look identical on the surface but point in completely different directions in terms of where a leader needs to look. She also introduces the idea of signal as a leadership variable: not what you say, not what you intend, but what your team is actually receiving and responding to. These are not frameworks. They are diagnostic lenses that shift how a leader reads the room.
Sit With This
Where is the energy in your team telling you something you have not fully stopped to hear?
Resources Mentioned
Gallup State of the Global Workplace Report
Links
The Invisible Weight — Private Audio Series:
Connect with Tami Imlay
Tami Imlay is an Executive Leadership Strategist and Advisor and the founder of Daily Choosing Joy LLC. She works with senior leaders who are performing at the highest level and want to understand the system running underneath their leadership.
Website: tamimariecoaching.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamiimlay
Enjoyed the Episode?
If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:
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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
Monday Apr 20, 2026
Monday Apr 20, 2026
Strong leaders trust their gut.
That is what you have been told your whole career. And it is not wrong. But at the level you are operating at right now — with more people pulling on you, more stakes visible, more eyes on every outcome — the calls that used to feel clean have started feeling heavier.
Not because your instincts are failing you. Because the signal has static in it. And most leaders do not know it is there.
In week three of the Leadership Myths series, Tami goes after one of the most sacred beliefs in leadership — and names the one distinction that changes how every decision lands after this.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Gut instinct is real — and it is worth examining with the same rigor you apply to everything else
- Not everyone means the same thing when they say "I trust my gut" — and that difference matters more than most leaders realize
- The body flags decisions emotionally before the conscious mind finishes processing — your gut is not making things up, it is running a fast pattern recognition system that cannot always tell the difference between this situation and a previous one
- Running on autopilot looks like confidence from the outside and costs more than expected from the inside
- You do not need to trust yourself less — you need to trust yourself more precisely
ABOUT THIS SERIES
The Leadership Myths series runs six weeks. Every episode takes one belief you have been handed about leadership and shows you why it is worth questioning — not because the advice was wrong, but because it was handed to you in the wrong order for the level you are operating at now.
Missed weeks one or two? Go back and listen. The series builds.
CONCEPTS INTRODUCED
This episode names three completely different ways leaders experience gut instinct — and why all three need the other two in the room before a decision lands. Tami connects the neuroscience of fast pattern recognition to the specific moment the signal starts carrying static — and names what becomes possible when the signal gets clean again.
SIT WITH THIS
When you say "I trust my gut" — is it your gut talking? Or is it your logic moving fast? Or your read on the relational temperature of the room?
And whichever it is — when did you last check with the other two?
LINKS MENTIONED
The Invisible Weight: Why the Leaders Who Earned It are the Ones It Hits Hardest. A private six-episode audio series — built for leaders at your level.
Aligned Leadership Audit — Complimentary diagnostic call. http://tamimariecoaching.com/call
SOMETHING I DON'T WANT YOU TO MISS
Most of what you have been handed about leadership isn't wrong. It's just backwards. Six weeks. Six myths worth questioning. Stay close — week four might be the one that hits closest to home.
Enjoyed the Episode?
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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛
- Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
- LinkedIn @tamiimlay
- Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
- My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
- Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
- For more information on the song:
- Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
- Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026
Monday Apr 13, 2026
Monday Apr 13, 2026
You know exactly what the right call is. You have known for three days. And you still have not made it.
That is not a clarity problem.
Most senior leaders have plenty of clarity. What they are missing is something the leadership industry almost never talks about — and it is costing their teams more than they realize.
In week two of the Leadership Myths series, Tami goes after one of the most widely sold beliefs in leadership development. The idea that what you need most right now is more clarity. More frameworks for it. More retreats about it. More journaling toward it.
And yet here you are — still revisiting Monday's decision on Thursday.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Clarity tells you what to do — decision stability is what makes it hold
- You can have complete clarity and zero stability at the same time
- Every time a decision wavers the team recalibrates — and they start waiting too
- McKinsey research found only 20% of organizations excel at decision-making — and those generate up to 6% higher returns to stakeholders
- Decision stability is not fearlessness — it is leading through the doubt anyway
ABOUT THIS SERIES
The Leadership Myths series runs six weeks. Every episode takes one belief you have been handed about leadership and shows you why it is worth questioning — not because the advice was wrong, but because it was handed to you in the wrong order for the level you are operating at now.
Missed week one? Go back and listen to the Collaboration Myth first. The two episodes build on each other.
CONCEPTS INTRODUCED
This episode draws the line between two things that feel like the same problem but are built completely differently — clarity and decision stability. Tami names what clarity can and cannot do, what decision stability looks like when a leader has it, and what it costs the team every time a decision gets quietly revisited after it was already made.
SIT WITH THIS
Where is a decision sitting on your desk right now that you already know the answer to — and what is it costing your team that it has not been made yet?
LINKS MENTIONED
The Invisible Weight: Why the Leaders Who Earned It are the Ones It Hits Hardest. A private six-episode audio series — built for leaders at your level. http://app.helloaudio.fm/feed/c6ff1d1a-3115-4cc3-a54c-1af179e469e4/signup
Aligned Leadership Audit — Complimentary diagnostic call. http://tamimariecoaching.com/call
SOMETHING I DON'T WANT YOU TO MISS
Most of what you have been handed about leadership isn't wrong. It's just backwards. Six weeks. Six myths worth questioning. Stay close.
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