#228: Showing Up for Yourself: The Power of Boundaries

"Setting and maintaining boundaries is essential for preserving energy and well-being, enhancing self-worth and self-respect, and improving relationships."  ~Tami Imlay

Happy podcast day! I'm so excited to be here with you today. I'm doing something a little different. I'm going to air a conversation, a training session I did with my Divine Destiny: Living a Purpose Aligned Life Facebook community. One theme we've been discussing this past week is showing up for yourself.

We've delved into creating healthy boundaries, understanding their purpose, and why we need them. To show up for others, we first need to show up for ourselves. This isn't selfish; it's essential. We've discussed core values and how showing up for ourselves allows us to pour from a full cup instead of an empty one. So, listen in!

Today, we are getting a sneak peek into day 4 of our Show Up For Yourself theme. 

 We're going to talk about boundaries, maintaining them, and what it has to do with showing up for yourself. This week's group theme has been showing up for ourselves and living a purpose-aligned life. We want to make an impact, feel fulfilled, and not waste time and energy on things that don't matter.

When we show up for ourselves, we can then show up for our people—our community, churches, PTA, neighbors, friends, and family. But it all starts with showing up for ourselves. Pouring out for everyone but ourselves makes us feel misaligned, overwhelmed, scattered and stuck.

We've talked about core values, pivoting, and maintaining our word to ourselves. Today, we're focusing on boundaries—why maintaining healthy ones is showing up for yourself, how it's the opposite of being selfish, and how to discover areas in your life that need boundaries.

Boundaries don't last forever; they shift as seasons do. Today, let's dive in and talk about why maintaining healthy boundaries is showing up for yourself. Here are three reasons why:

1. Preservation of Energy and Well-being

If we try to be everything to everyone, we're actually nothing to no one. We're exhausted and don't have the energy to do what really matters. Understanding our core values makes it easier to set boundaries, freeing us to have the life we want. Healthy boundaries protect your time, resources, gifts, and emotional well-being, helping you live your purpose.

2. Enhanced Self-worth and Self-respect

When we respect ourselves, we're able to show up for ourselves. We see the value we bring, and when we're at our best, we can bring our best. Self-respect makes it easy to say no to things that don't align with our values. For example, I once had to decline airing a podcast interview because the guest's values didn't align with mine. This self-respect and confidence help protect the values that my brand holds.

3. Improved Relationships

Setting boundaries actually improves relationships by creating clear expectations and mutual agreements, leading to healthier, deeper connections. People know what you stand for, can trust you, and value the relationships more.

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Key Takeaways:

• Importance of Boundaries:

• • • Boundaries help in prioritizing self-care and showing up effectively for oneself and others.
    • They are vital for maintaining energy and overall well-being.
    • Healthy boundaries enhance self-worth and self-respect.
    • They contribute to better and more fulfilling relationships.

• Identifying the Need for Boundaries:

• • • Assess sources of stress in your life.
    • Pay attention to your feelings and reactions.
    • Evaluate how you allocate your time and energy.

• Practical Tips for Setting Boundaries:

• • • Identify your needs and create boundaries around them.
    • Give yourself permission to pivot and make necessary changes in alignment with your purpose.

• Upcoming Challenge:

• • Focus on giving yourself permission to pivot and make necessary changes to align with your purpose.

Action Steps:

• Reflect on areas in your life where boundaries are needed.
• Take action by setting and maintaining those boundaries to live a purpose-aligned and fulfilling life.

Journal Question: 

Reflect on an area in your life where you feel stressed or overwhelmed. What boundaries can you set to preserve your energy and well-being, enhance your self-worth and self-respect, and improve your relationships? How can you give yourself permission to pivot and make necessary changes to align with your purpose?

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