#241 We Will Let People Down: Insights from a Reformed People Pleaser

I know you don’t want to do it. I KNOW it crushes your soul just a little bit when you have to decide to let others down. Friend, I know it because even to this day, I feel the heavy burden around it. AND when we know our true values and priorities, we can make the difficult decisions needed to grow. In today’s episode, we talk about the uncomfortable natue of letting people down and how sometimes we have to do it for very good reasons. The closer we get to our purpose, our values, our calling…the more narrow our decisions are. It’s our responsibility to stay the course! 

 

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Key Takeaways:

• • Discomfort with Disappointing Others: Tami expresses a profound discomfort with the idea of disappointing others but acknowledges that it is sometimes necessary to stay true to personal values and priorities.
  • Balancing Act: Meeting diverse expectations while living authentically requires making difficult choices, often involving committing to one obligation while declining another.
  • Reformed People Pleaser: Tami identifies as a reformed people pleaser, driven by a desire to serve others, but recognizes that overcommitting can lead to burnout and detract from one's true purpose.
  • Foundational Values: Tami has clarified their foundational values and motivations, which are rooted in a desire to collaborate with God and create a positive impact in the world.
  • Navigating Difficult Decisions: Making difficult decisions often involves sacrificing personal desires and comforts to protect the interests of a larger group, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing one's mission and values.
  • Personal Growth: The decision-making process is framed as a component of personal growth, leading to better boundaries and choices.
  • Acceptance of Disappointment: Tami encourages listeners to accept that disappointing others is sometimes necessary for pursuing the greater good and alleviating the emotional weight associated with it.
  • Resilience Against Criticism: Tami highlights the need for resilience and the capacity to remain unaffected by criticism, advocating for prioritizing obedience to God over societal expectations.
  • Understanding Values and Purpose: Understanding one's values, priorities, and purpose is crucial for navigating the challenges associated with disappointing others.

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Journal Question: 

Reflect on a recent situation where you had to make a difficult decision that involved disappointing someone. How did you navigate the balance between staying true to your personal values and managing the expectations of others? What did you learn about your priorities and boundaries through this experience, and how can this insight guide you in future decisions to ensure you are living authentically and with integrity?

 

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