#303 Prepare Before the Conflict: 3 Things Every Leader Needs to Know

Hey Friend!

Most people walk into conflict like it’s a battlefield.
They’re reactive. Defensive. And often unclear about what they’re even fighting for.

But what if conflict could become a catalyst instead of a collapse?
In today’s episode, I share 3 things you need to cultivate before conflict even begins—whether it’s at work, at home, or in your own mind.

If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling frustrated, misunderstood, or drained… this episode is for you.

 

💬 "You can’t control the conflict—but you can control who you are when you walk into it." ~Tami Imlay

 

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🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Why preparing for emotional tension is more important than preparing for what to say
• How humility shifts everything in a high-stakes conversation
• What self-mastery has to do with managing tension and being misunderstood
• Knowing your triggers and desired outcome will protect your peace
• The real reason most conflict spirals (hint: it’s not what they said—it’s how you responded)

💡 The H.T.O. Conflict Prep Model™

Before any tough conversation or high-stakes decision, ask yourself:

• H – Humility: Am I walking in with the belief that I don’t know everything?
• T – Triggers: What could cause me to react instead of respond?
  O – Outcome: Am I aiming to protect the relationship or secure a result?

✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:

➡️ ➡️ Conflict isn’t the enemy—unexamined identity is.

When you know your values, triggers, and communication blind spots, you walk into every room with clarity and grounded confidence.

💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:

Think of a conversation you’ve been avoiding.

Ask yourself the H.T.O. questions—and choose to respond instead of react.

Then take one courageous, prepared step forward.

📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:

“Where am I letting my reactions lead, instead of my values?”

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